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33 weeks of pregnancy
It is uncomfortable because tummy is stretching and causing cramps at the tummy area.
It is big and couldn’t find a lot of clothes that I can wear…didn’t buy many pregnancy clothes…don’t know why I can spend few hundreds for an evening dress that I might wear just a few times but not these pregnancy clothes. I just feel that it does not worth it 
Well, there are many to update, life has been very challenging and a strong mentality is very important.
Nevertheless, at the mid of boredom, I do find interesting things to do, lol.
In Feb, I was 58kg, and now I weighed 74kg…
It is big but I am sure it will grow even bigger soon
It is very difficult to interrupt his StarCraft session and drag him for picture together!
Our wedding…rings
The happy soon to be mommy
A happy soon to be mommy and daddy
The over of the first trimester
Yes! Survived through the first dreadful trimester. It wasn’t a pleasant experience having the feeling of vomiting and being moody, dragging myself to work every morning, looking forward for 6pm in the evening for dinner. The feeling of not able to withstand hunger was a torture.
Now, at the 21 weeks of pregnancy, things seems to get so much better.
Appetite got better, although still couldn’t be too full.
Meal time seems to be stable, as its pretty fixed with breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Seems to gain back energy as well, can shop for longer time. Don’t get tired and sleepy easily.
No more nausea, drinking milk has been a routine. In fact, now husband will prepare for me, makes the “sweetest” milk in the world 
Last checkup with doctor, he confirmed about 70% to 80% that baby is a girl. Honestly, a little bit of disappointed (shhh….don’t tell my daughter) as I am expecting a Soo Chi Lam. But after a while, I just have to thank god for my girl. She is healthy, growing bigger in my stomach, active as she is making a lot of butterflies in my stomach.
He wants Grace but I want Elise for her. I like this name because I like how everyone pronounce this name in the HK series ‘The Gem of Life’. There is a character carried by Linda Chung, and she is really stylish and standout in the series. I like the pronunciation. It makes me like the name more remembering my favorite score by the genius Beethoven for his infamous piece ‘Pour Elise’. What’s more, the name bear the same ‘E’ as I do
If he is a boy, I might name him ‘Ethan’. But that might be for the next baby.
As for the Chinese, he suggested a name resembles his friend’s name, Soo Huey Yen (if i am not mistaken). And I leave this part to him, be fair ma….But Soo Huey Yen, or maybe Soo Huey See sounds nice to me.
It is only at this stage, the inner feeling in me finally telling me that ‘Ongki, your pregnancy is real! You are going to be a mother! There will be a lil girl calling you mother and she will be the responsibility of your whole life’!!!!!!
I was like, ‘Oh my god, what to do….what’s next? Never did I imagine myself giving birth so soon….and all of the sudden?’…..okay, no point looking back at what happened that brings me to where am i today. The more constructive thing to do is not to repeat the mistake. Just like what I told him, we must start the exact planning and start the execution to ensure she is delivered to this world having a proud parents and blessed life ahead.
23rd May, two months after marriage, we talked over, what and how does we scored as husband and wife. There are things both of us are not doing good but at least up until now, we have tried hard to cope up with the life of adjusting to each other’s attitude, style of living and of course, with all the limitation and constrains we are having now. I know this is not an ideal environment, for him but I am sure, if we both work harder, things will be better. But seeing this from another perspective, I think both of us are so blessed. We have parents to take care of us so perfectly that I think I really owe them a lot. How should I replay later?
Sometimes I am scared to owe people too much, because I do not know what can I repay them 
For myself, marriage changed me tremendously. I used to be a self centric, being isolated from family, only entertaining friends and satisfying own’s need for a life that I think it should be ‘fun’. I used to just play with the computer, doing my work or freelance, or chatting with friends or maybe just blogging.
But now I don’t. I know when are the times I should have quality chat with parents and sister. I feel so much appreciating them now. Although there are things I don’t really know how to show my concern, all I do is only praying in my heart for the sick to get healthy soon.
I am still a very blessed girl and glad I found my husband who has been tolerating with me all the times (I am sincere, not that I want to flatter him knowing he will read this soon ), and my daughter who has yet to see the real world, but thanks to her, for being healthy and growing in my stomach.
Thank god, pour Elise
Movie #23 with hubby – Ip Man 2
#23 Ip Man 2 (Cantonese) ***** 5 stars (very good)
The audience actually claps after he defeated the enemy.
And i said, ‘yes!!!!’
Movie talks about how far we can go for living….
It’s been a while…
…since I last blogged. Welcome me back!
This is the 31st day after our wedding on last 20th March 2010.
A month felt like ages ago. Couldn’t recall much what have I done within these 31 days except that I am coping hard with the effects of being a pregnant lady. Unfortunately it wasn’t a pleasant first trimester as I was physically unfit as well as mentally exhausted. The morning sickness haunts me until now, at the 16th weeks.
As for life after wedding, except that they are people calling me Mrs Soo and Pn. Soo, and I have someone to call “husband”, there isn’t much difference compare before. Reason is because I am still staying with family (and being taken care perfectly) and he is still at his place at Wangsa. Life’s as usual. We don’t meet on weekdays because now I don’t usually go out after work. Oh, one obvious effect with another life in my stomach, I can’t endure hunger anymore! If hungry, I will start to feel vomiting and sometimes black out. So, i’ll head home for dinner right after work. And he’ll be busy at JPN and attending his classes. By this end of the month, he’ll move over my place since he already terminated his room rent contract.
As for what happened 30 days before 20th March, I think it is definitely a whirlwind experience in my life.
We got to know about pregnancy on 14th Feb, the very first day of CNY. Still not known to my parents and relatives, we got tremendous blessings and jokes from them, asking us to prepare for “something good” on that evening. I guess, it must have shocked them a lot when the news reached them in just about 2 weeks later.
We informed both sides parents, and it seems to be a welcomed news. My parents was like happy but not expressing out. I can feel them being excited as well. But when comes to talk about the wedding preparation, both families were in distress. It wasn’t easy to pick a good date for the wedding as April was Qing Ming, and to make it after April, my tummy would be too big by then. So we were left with the dates in March only! And his parents got a date as soon as 1xth of March which is a mission impossible as it was just 7++ days away.
My parents were left with no choice but to get another sifu to pick another date. And thank god, 20th March is just an ideal date. We were left with 20++ days to prepare everything.
Actually, come to think about it, there isn’t much to prepare, I guess it is the mentality pressure that makes us all so nervous and see times to be that tight. There were few things we had omitted, the invitation card printing, mainly to save cost, and less hassle to take care, we just sent e-invitation card.
As we are also not moving house, there is nothing to take care too. But before decided not to move, we did go around and look for suitable house to rent temporary. Saw one near Pandan Perdana, which looks good, but since parents offering this flat to us, and since it is so much more convenient, we decided to stay here. I guess, this is the best option.
Most of the preparations were done for the betrothal ceremony (‘guo dai li’) process. Many things were to prepare (which were mostly done by my parents). Next was the wedding registration, we only managed to get 31st March for the nearest date to 20th. One important thing we also skipped was taking photo studio, we decided to sign wedding package but not taking the pictures at the moment. I am fine with this, because I was too fat and not prepared at all for such a lengthy process to be done in a rush. We signed for the wedding gowns and other miscellaneous items to be prepared by the bridal house. We signed up at City Image, hoping to get good deal since our family friend used to work there. But much to my disappointment, except that the package seems cheaper for the range of gowns that i chose, others like service level, quality, were all rubbish. To be frank, I wouldn’t advise anyone to go there!
As for the wedding car, we borrowed from my cousin who owned a used car shop. It was a white 5 series BMW. I guess thats the only chance i get to drive luxury car in my life!
Dinner guest, it was a huge process to invite and re-invite and ensure their attendance, we made mistakes here and there. Some forgot to send e-invitation card, and they don’t even appear at the dinner, although already informed via MSN. I admit, that was my mistake, but if you are a friend who understand….you should be able to…. Well, well, well, it was still my mistake. I have more than 10 tables of friends. And fortunately many are able to make it. Although my closest buddies like A Yat and CKY couldn’t make it. Both were due to work Luckily company’s buddies all made it, especially boss who flew back all the way from BKK for this. The regret was that MD and his team couldn’t make it. They however, organised a post-wedding dinner for us. It was very nice of them but I guess they missed a moment when they can see my eyes glowing with blessings and happiness. That was MY evening! Totally mine!
I’ve got to write about the hotel! Equatorial Hotel! Although I am sure my choice to hold it at a hotel ballroom is a good, but I’ve got to say, it was a huge mistake to choose EQ. Service before the dinner was bad! I really had nightmare because of this. Imagine, I have to contact the person in charge to remind them about my wedding, which is getting closer and she told me, she was on leave for a month!
Fine, so i find another pic and he was also on MC! Hey, what the heck, the dinner will be just 5 days away, we have not even done the food testing! I was all well prepared for the payment but they said they do not have pic here to know the details! What have they done for me?
Nothing…only at last another lady attended us and I have to say she is the only thing we are satisfied for.
She prepared everything again. Food testing was arranged just the next day after payment, was very rush. Mom have to take last minute decision to come and cause some troubles with the kids’ mom that she babysits for. Food was good, almost perfect during the tasting time. But on the actual evening, everything was bad!
I always want to feedback to the hotel but up to now, I don’t even feel like want to communicate with them!
However, service during dinner wasn’t bad, put it this way…its the Sales Department that was a chaos and blame the kitchen for the bad food. Service is good.
Alright, it should be thats all for the wedding preparation. Oh, i must mention the war-alike open house party at my flat the night before wedding. It was really like a war, place was small, food wasn’t enough, guest were a lot….first time family holding a party, I guess everyone underestimated the situation. Mom didn’t order enough. Neighbours came eat and pack food back. I am so sorry to my friends as they came but not much food are there for them. Although sister has to pack back some additional foods like satay and fried chicken, but it still doesn’t seems enough. One word, chaotic! Next time I would rather pay more and have things more organised.
Wedding day…..to be continue…
Getting Married!!!!!
Hello World,
Yes! I am getting married!!! I am!!!!! on 20 March 2010!!!!!
做大事??? Okay, I’ve got something really big coming up…
Stay tune
Recaps : Ongki in 2009 (II)
To be updated on 1st Feb 2009.
Recaps : Ongki in 2009 (I)
Farewell lunch with CIS colleagues
Ongki in 2006
“Runaway from Beijing hostel”
At Ipoh, Fu Shan
Taiwan
Woohooo….it is 12.11 am at this moment!
1st January 2010 !
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BYE BYE 2009!!!!
Welcome 2010!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2009 Resolution Final Update
1) Complete first year MBA – no fails in exam
Done 100% – two modules exam with flying colors result
2) Improve/change lifestyle habits
- Do not lie
- Focus more
- Be decisive
- Less chili, less ice in meal
Done 50% – not applied fully but doing any of these now will cause me to feel guilty. Awareness raised.
Will keep reducing each unhealthy lifestyle and habits for a better Ongki.
3) By October, buy a diamond necklace (double size of previous) with every month’s saving
Done 50% – I indeed bought a bigger diamond but it’s not with monthly saving. Money management still poor.
4) Organize an overseas trip with family
Not done – parent’s don’t want to go due to H1N1 outbreak. Will plan one in coming year instead.
5) Build TravelSoft and impress Cynthia and help their businesses
80% – Built a brand new module fully by myself, started from scratch. A sense of achievement, and what’s more, client using during Matta Fair, am proud of myself! Who cares whether who got impressed or not, lol.
Hey, reread the Mixed fortune…Zodiac guide to Ox year, pretty close to real life,
Generally, it’s a favourable year. You have three big lucky stars but several unlucky stars around you. So you can expect to face some obstacles on the road to success.
Ongki : Yes, it was a significant year. Marked many new beginnings for me.
Career This is the time for you to shine. Two lucky stars smile on your career. You should make significant progress and get promoted. Don’t be over-confident when you have achieved success. The salaried Ram may make more than sufficient money. It’s a good time for investments and new business ventures.
Ongki: Career progressed well. No promotion but great progress. Manager satisfied with my performance.
Just started a new business with friends, started up great.
Love life With the influence of two unlucky stars, the Ram is likely to have arguments with his/her love interest. But you get to know each other better and take your relationship to the next level.
Ongki: Yes, there were arguments with SCH but we now understand each others better.
Health Watch out for signs of increased stress or burn-out. Take a good rest.
Ongki: Worn out, exhausted with full time job, freelance, new business and part time MBA.
Take note: Although you may feel like a superhero, you’re definitely not one. Take precautions, like everyone else.
Ongki: A safe 2009 has passed. What’s next for 2010?
Celebrating 30 years old birthday
A year where i am at the right point to reflect the past and to plan for the future.
Most ppl in their 20′s doesn’t really know what they are doing because what they should be doing is what everyone else doing.
But starting 30yrs old, thats the beginning of your real own journey.
The future is not something your parents will arrange for u.
To others, the next is marriage, motherhood and i guess thats the ‘maturity’ point
To me, i might be ‘late’ as allen often describe me, my mentality is only at the age of 20.
But no one can escape from this kind of society pressure!
I leave this issues to go by nature, depends how it goes.
However, i am in the midst of planning my future.
What do i want to be in the next 10 years?
Before seeing the next 10 years, i see what did i do in the past 10 years.
We must know where are we before we can find the way to where we want to be.
That makes us different from the mice in the Who Moved My Cheese…
In the past, i grab every single opportuniy that comes to me.
I always think, there is no lose to agree, to say yes, to accept and to do almost everything that comes into my interest.
That explain why i have changed seven jobs in my employment history but that also explained the places and ppl i have met in these years.
My friend described that i have some kind of BIG (blessing in disguise).
But it should no longer be this way, and i won’t let it happen, i will take all the responsibility of what is going to happen to me next, starting 2010.
In the next 10 years, i want to own a profitable business.
2010 is the year where i will put this goal into second priority, aside from doing my MBA.
It is also the starting of my accumulating knowledge process, as per boss’s advise.
