Chilam & Anita – good news!!!

Julian Cheung and Anita Yuen celebrate their 8th wedding anniversary by kissing in public

Two couples in the entertainment industry known for their conjugal love, Michael Miu and his wife Jamie Chik, Julian Cheung (Chilam) and his wife Anita Yuen, attended Alan Tam and Hacken Lee’s Left Alan Right Hacken (左麟右李) concert the night before last.

Anita specially requested her favorite song, Who Could Change (誰可改變, originally sang by Alan Tam) from TVB’s The Fearless Duo (天師執位). Since the drama’s main lead Michael was present, Alan asked the two couples to come up on stage to sing and dance together.

It was funny when Anita ‘abandoned’ Chilam to hold Alan’s hand, he said with a laugh: “You aren’t afraid your husband is unhappy?” Hacken had no choice but to hold Chilam’s hand, the three pairs sang hand in hand, it was hilarious! The night before last coincidentally was Anita and Chilam’s 8th wedding anniversary, Alan and Hacken took advantage of this opportunity and asked them to have a ’8th wedding anniversary kiss’ on stage, this stirred up the audience and urged on by everyone, the two generously kissed.

Regarding this incident, our reporter contacted Chilam yesterday, he self-ridiculed that his outward appearance gives off the impression he is a romantic person but in fact he is very boring. He said the night before last was indeed their wedding anniversary, before the concert he gave Anita some flowers and together with their son, they went to see a movie. Asked if he thought he and Anita are model husband and wife in the entertainment industry, Chilam said: “Michael and Jamie should be considered first!”

MBA Day 2 – Advanced Strategic Management – what is that????

Last Thursday, I attended the MBA lectures for the second time.
After got my first shocked on the day before, I hope this time would be less tense but it ended up to be superb tense instead. Entering the class slightly late, I entered the room, with my eyes looking for SCH.
And he was there. Sign of relief since this guy always help me a lot.

But not long after one whole lots of introduction of the module assignment from the Indian professor, he asked us to form groups. SCH told me to join his group which consist of a Malay guy and another quite old uncle. They were all so proactive, they were so experienced. They started to talk about who can contribute on what and so on. When I was asked about what can i contribute, I said, ‘nothing, i just joined, i don’t know what can i contribute’. In fact, I didn’t even know what the heck the module is talking about! I didn’t understand almost all the Q and A between the professor and the other students. I was damn BLUR!
But SCH came to my rescue, help a bit by saying I do a lot of readings.

I know their concern is that, they don’t want group member who don’t contribute to the team and just getting marks by others effort. But I really want to let them know that they can rest assured that I will put 110% of efforts! (provided I have idea of what I need and should do)
It could be that I didn’t speak anything when they discussed about which firms to select as target study (since I was still blur), the Malay guy looked at me and warned me about not contributing. I frankly told him that I didnt know anything. And they are quite surprise that I didn’t take the Strategic Management before coming in for the ADVANCED SM. Hey! I told them, I just joined!!!
I was thinking in my heart, ‘F**k loh!! why the heck am i here????!!!!! can i withdraw the MBA???’
But these team members keeps telling me that it is something can be done. To take Advanced before taking the basic SM. Well, since they say so, I just let it be. I don’t want to displease them by withdrawing myself from the group just because I am not confidence on what I am doing! I know, I can’t give up!!! I know!!!
So i didn’t. The pressure haunted me all night long.

After the lecture, we even went for a movie, “The Wedding Game”. I think Fann Wong and Chris Lee are just cute together.
But during some point of the movie, my mind was so worry about the group assignment, that I couldn’t concentrate 100% on the movie.
Just as soon as I reached home, I started to search online for the information.
That was what I were doing on Friday and Saturday night as well.
Only today, managed to escape and went the lunch gathering with UMS coursemates.
Visited Loke Foong’s house and we had an interesting Poker game.

Basically, it was a very tough and challenging week for me. Tiring as well.
It has been so long since I am in such tension mode.
Serving client at work, reporting to manager, working together with colleagues….and now attending classes, and have to do a lot, a lot, really a lot of readings!!!!! On subjects that I never read for the past 2x years of my life!
Tough life just got started…………May god bless me!!!!

First Day at MBA – can I do it?

Today is my first class. Although I was just sitting in the ‘trial’ class as I haven’t decide on the final subjects to take, but I already feel the tense around. Attending Thomas’s Management of Change….

Well, I would honestly say, I am only able to grab 40% of what he delivered. His speech is too speedy.  Can’t get some of his jokes sometimes. Only when he seriously and clearly delivering the keynote of his slides that I can understand in full. But overall, I am very dissapointed with my own standard! Guess what, all other students are so so so damn fluent in English. With slang somemore! Confident, outspoken, proactive ….. and me? erm….

He was saying we can’t avoid change and unless we are ‘constants’, otherwise change occurs all the times, because we are human, and we need to know how to manage it. I like this idea and now I am experiencing a big change in my life.  He taught us that language can twist on how you respond to change.  When you can’t do something, add 3 letters behind your sentence, and it brings a totally new meaning to your sentence.

“I can’t do it”  ……….change to………. “I can’t do it YET“

This subject does not have exam but there will be a group assignment or presentation and an individual report. And at the end of the class, we already have to select our group members. There were 7 of us, including a lawyer, a HR manager, some foreigners, some IT experts and another IT moron (me loh). And we are suppose to split into two groups but we were all standing there, not knowing what’s the best method to split as we are all new to each other, doesn’t know how to choose.  In the end, someone suggested to flip coins and guess what, we have a draw. Some sort of ‘cabutan bertuah’.

I am in this group with the lawyer, who looks nice and friendly, although not handsome but who cares as long as he can work ., and another full timer young pretty lady, Chrisandra., whom i got to know from Scott that she comes from a rich family and it might be a bad choice to be in the same group as her since she will not be as dedicated as other part timers will do. 

After the class, I had dinner with Scott and he told me many stories of who is rich guy, who is good and who is bad. Never know going to school is this complicated! I’d really underestimated how much commitment do I need to put in to complete this MBA, and the question is, can I really get a pass???

I begin to have doubts. Can i do it YET? Is this the right time for me to do it YET? Will I pass those exames? Never come across my mind, doing an MBA is so much more tougher than a degree!

But no regret, I already started it, and i will try all my best to complete it, maybe not Distinction but at least a PASS!

New Year, New Theme

Since it’s new year (chinese new year) and it’s February(Valentine’s month), I have changed the theme into something more feminine and different from those I had previously.
How do you like it?

Appreciation

It’s 3am and I couldn’t get to sleep even after a tiring two days trip to Ipoh and Penang.
I am very disturbed by the comments and ‘suggestions’ made by one of my closest friend who trying to mean, what I am trying to do to please and make everyone happy tomorrow might be just a waste.
But since recently I learnt not to give up easily, I didn’t get affected by her suggestions to cancel or alter the plan but to still go ahead and promised myself to make it happen.
Although I know what I did is correct yet my emotions always get affected by how people like to ‘pour cold water’ on me. I repeatedly ask myself the same question, why does she seems like always pinpoint me on whatever I do? But come to think again, I realized MANY friends or colleagues do like to criticize and object on all my decisions, ideas and even jokes! Sometimes when I am very eager to prove that I am right, I tend to became too tension and got lost control of my behavior.
I am still trying to figure out, what is wrong with me?
Is it because I am someone who cares a lot about how others see me?
Is it because I tend to make everyone around me pleased and happy, that sometimes they see me as a joker?
Is it because I am really as stupid and dumb like they think I am?
Why even people who said they love me didn’t show respect or trust me? Why don’t trust and respect come in together with the package of LOVE?

After all these unanswered questions arise in my head, I read the updated blog of my colleague who just did a liver donation operation. God blessed, she is recovering very fast and my trip to Ipoh was partly to visit her. Now everyone see her as an angel. And she is. Even by just looking at the pictures of her scars do make me feel the pain she had, or even much more painful than I think it should be.
She wrote that it was her first time seeing her divorced parents appear together and how happy she was to be able to grab a picture of them. I am thinking, how strong this girl is, and how lucky am I, because I get to see my parents together everyday, and she only has that ONE opportunity in her 20++ years.
I feel that, I must appreciate, appreciate and appreciate.
Things doesn’t come as we wished to. To get friends supporting me doesn’t come because it should be too.
I get friends who hurt me, who tend to destroy my confidence, who does not have confidence in me…that must be due to what I have failed to prove to them that they should appreciate me.
At the end of the story, I have to first appreciate people before I expect they appreciate me.

Mixed fortune…Zodiac guide to Ox year

Ram

Generally, it’s a favourable year. You have three big lucky stars but several unlucky stars around you. So you can expect to face some obstacles on the road to success.

Career This is the time for you to shine. Two lucky stars smile on your career. You should make significant progress and get promoted. Don’t be over-confident when you have achieved success. The salaried Ram may make more than sufficient money. It’s a good time for investments and new business ventures.

Love life With the influence of two unlucky stars, the Ram is likely to have arguments with his/her love interest. But you get to know each other better and take your relationship to the next level.

Health Watch out for signs of increased stress or burn-out. Take a good rest.

Take note: Although you may feel like a superhero, you’re definitely not one. Take precautions, like everyone else.

新年快乐 !!!

Gong Xi Fa Chai!!!!!

I wishes everyone ‘one sail wind smooth’!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Interesting google….

‘Chew’ the World!!!

Last Saturday, some of my colleagues and I had a one day trip to Singapore, visiting our colleague (the popular XeerSoft energy booster), who is now in Gleneagles Hospital, Singapore.

She did an operation to voluntarily donate part of her liver to a 13 years old girl, whom she has no relationship or to be exact, a stranger to her.
She did this to save the girl as with her life motto of Never Try, Never Know and 反正不会死.

I feedback on her blog,

ongki said…
chinese saying, “豹死留皮,人死留名”

死 also not scared, you have done such a great thing, up there will give u certificate for your good deeds..

i do not need to wish you, its deeply in our heart, you carry the best in you….

ongki said…
err, not sure if i convey my msg correctly, sounds not too right, anyway, i think the best description is….
you have no limit, nothing to scared….天不怕地不怕!!!

And she’s right, the hospital is like a 5 stars hotel! (except that they don’t have bathtub), otherwise the next time I am donating, I would request to go there too.

On Friday, I went bed at around 10pm, got wake up call at 1.45am, got picked up at around 315am.
Although I looked like having a good sleep during the approximately 6 hours journey to SG, but duh…my back is so uncomfortable and sleeping in the car of 5 is so much torturing. I was complaining, should have board Air Asia, can reach comfortably in less than an hour?

We totally have no idea the ways in Singapore. Luckily I brought the map and thanks to the surprisingly nice Singaporean who was driving a BMW 3 series, he kindly showed us the way straight till in front of the Gleneagles building. I have to say, Singaporean is much nicer than I already knew they are since 3 years back while working there.
This time going to Singapore after my last exit from the country in Jan, 2006, I was kinda excited.
Thought of having some of my favourite foods there (i.e. mee pok, mee hoon kuey, the japanese chicken satay), but time and energy was too much limited. Only managed to go Takashimaya and get some Toriyaki, the chicken satay. I bought about 7 sticks and finished all them by myself! Fat but who cares…

Okay, no more complains and foods, I’ve gotta say, the brief visit of Chew and the girl left me deep impression. Very deep.
Once we saw Chew, she looked dull and lost most of her energy. (she normally carries a 10 level energy with her all the times).
Well, what to expect for someone who had been operated for about 6 hours by 20 docs and nurses.
She can only have soft foods and fluids like soup, apple juice, and her lunch prepared by the hospital is like, mashed beans and potatoes.
She is tired but still manage to keep talking and talking for non stop. Salute her really.
As opposed to the five of us, we are like, don’t know what to talk. Only looking at her, feeling her pain, saluting her deed, admiring her angelic sacrifices.
I was thinking, her action made everyone rethink of themselves, at least to me.
Well, I don’t mind donating too, but it’s just a ‘talk’. Or maybe it’s because there isn’t anyone come to me and ask, ‘Can you donate your liver to me?’ Erm, yeah, maybe from now on, we can concern more on this kind of news, there are people out there who needs our help. To be able to save people’s life is so …. so encouraging, so happy, so pleasing…
We met the mother of the girl, she was taking care of Chew too.
She told us, ‘She saved my girl’s life’. I was touched deeply in my heart.
But I guess the moment my heart was really in pain and ached as if being taken out and got dumped into a pail of iced water, was at the moment when the nurse opened up the blind in the ICU room and I saw the unfortunate yet fortunate young girl right in front of my eyes.
She has fair complexion, round face shapes, round big eyes. She didn’t have much expression on her face.
Left us all speechless. Didn’t know what to talk again.
We only introduced that we were friends of Chew. Asked if she is still feeling pain. YR asked her to 加油.
My heart sank like Titanic after hitting on iceberg. God, I was so so so sad and feeling so bad.
Almost got my tears rolling down.
God, I pray upon you, please bless this girl. I will never forget her face and expression.

See, the pale Chew Chew and us.

I wish…

Recaps : Ongki in 2008

Last year’s resolutions and 2008 recaps

At work
1) Do my Eisentech project well, must have confidence, I aim to ask for increment once the project is well done no increment coz project failed

2) Learn from my managers, their capabilities, strategy – i cannot be a turtle, hidden under the shell anymore! – still learning

Life

1) Attend Juan’s graduation this coming May in Sydney and to visit Jun in Melbourne. – failed, they don’t have time to entertain me

2) To achieve 50K before new house is ready to move in – whether to move in is another story
- achieved half only, not moving in, rented out

3) Do not be easily mentally affected. – failed

4) Must have a balance and healthy lifestyle – spend time with family, friends and not just playing with the computer - failed

5) Keep good health, sleep early, wake up early! - failed

6) one last time, NEVER VISIT HIS WEBSITE ANYMORE!!!! Ongki, no one can hurt you except yourself!!!!! Let go!!!!!!!!!!!! - definitely failed

Jan
Not happy at work, efforts not appreciated.
AY trying to match make me with his wife’s best friend. (horrible)
More wedding news.

Feb
A snowy chinese new year in China. Frozen snow covering up the train rail. Ppl can’t go back hometown.
Sent regards to all my friends in China.
A warm CNY I had in Malaysia though. Betting with buddies.
Met cousin and her lovely daughter, beautiful like angel.
Still feeling hurt with the past. Still writing silly post for him.

Mar
I demand for appologies. He said SORRY. I sighed. No more excuse for me to linger on.
I am still learning to 放下一个人

Apr
- Trip to Perhentian.
- Enjoyed looking at the calm, peaceful sea. Sadly recalled the past but other than that, feeling energized to start on work again.
- Colleague’s trip to HZ, China, made me insane. Thinking about the ppl there.
- Lost myself. Totally couldn’t find back my own soul.

May
- Got to know that Kimberly is in a relationship. Feeling very moved and glad for her.
- Be friended with Hunter and his gf. Cute guy.
- China biggest earthquake. Sent regards to China friends.
- Sent him email wishing he’s fine and he replied yes.
- Poh Li’s wedding dinner. Everyone said me prettier.

Jun
- Started Roystar project, writing a travel agency software.
- Fei’s wedding dinner. Ongki officially the only unmarried and single among UMS housemates.
- Jealous at KS’s EOS 400D.
- Tendered for the first time.
- Boss told me the secret about his HZ encounters. Felt like got slapped, and a voice telling me to wake up and stop living in the past.
- Manager’s wedding. Wore a red dress, look like a 18 years old fatty girl

July
- MOST SIGNIFICANT EVENT IN MY LIFE, sent him email, saying “Thank you for removing Ongki from your life, thank you for removing you from Ongki’s life.”
- Slowly standing up again.
- Came in a lot of young boys as intern in company. They were whole lots of fun!
- Began to move on, began to laugh.
- Bought my EOS 450D. Still my best darling up to now.
- Wrote about 千手观音. My most infamous blog post up to now, I guess.
- Climbed Crystal Hill, couldn’t believe somewhere in KL has such breathtaking view.

Aug
- Beijing Olympic 08 08 2008. Proud of China!!!!
- Played paintball again, with Xeers, and hurt boss on his head. Feeling so guilty.

Sep
- Being the happiest ‘lao cha boh’ on earth
- Met a gang of young, energetic, funny, playful interns.

Oct
- Birthday month.
- Birthday, nothing special, except being treated like a Princess in XeerSoft.
- Launched alasha.com.my first time being a small small boss myself
- Got the key for my new condo, Dynasty Garden

Nov
- Tried to involve in Sales activity for the company. Great experience.
- Found myself truly a sales dummy.

Dec
- A colleagues called me 肥斯大只 (fei-si-dai-jek). Don’t know angry or happy.
- Juan’s wedding dinner. Been waiting for this day for the past 10++ years and it happened!
- Decided to do MBA in 2009.
- Rented out my nice condo
- Holiday cum work trip to Taiwan, spending Christmas and New Year in this wonderful and pleasant city.
- Lost my beloved diamond pendant with silver gold necklace during the trip, determined to get a better one next year

Not a very fruitful year, but definitely a significant one.
If 2006 is the turning point of me going uphill and 2007 is the one I’m coming down, I suppose 2008 is the year I was struggling so much to go up again.
Is 2009 the year of me going up again?

That depends on how I plan to succeed it. I have confidence, if I want, I surely can…